The images of female friendships we often see in media would portray that women are out to get each other, that women hate each other passionately and passively, that women are competition for male attention.
What I have experienced cannot be further from the truth.
Female friendships are forces to be reckoned with, here’s why.
The dream launcher friend:
Every time I had an idea whether it was starting a blog, whether it was applying for a different job, or moving to a different city there was a female friend there to say do it! This is the friend that you can share your dreams with and nothing is too crazy, too far fetched, too out of reach that you cannot do with this friend by your side. When you succeed, they succeed and both of you are there for the losses and to celebrate the wins.
The partner in crime friend:
Because female friendships are ride or die, your friend that is riding along can convince you to do just about anything and vice versa. This has led to international adventures, road trips through Arizona deserts, late nights dancing, and stranger than fiction moments in my life. You’re not sure of where the journey leads but you cannot imagine better company.
The mirror friend:
There have also been times in my life where I was so caught up in a relationship, a toxic work environment, or other situation that I could not see it clearly for myself. These are the moments when you need a friend to hold up a mirror to your life and help you to make the situation right, whether it means walking away, letting go or simply slowing down. This friend can help us see the error of our ways, reaffirm our identity, and help us to stand in our truth. Without this mirror, our vision becomes myopic, we run the risk of going through life without the reflection we need to be our best selves.
The second mom:
Do not get it twisted. I love my mom! And yet, there are women in my life that have stepped in for me at work, in life and seen me fall and helped me to dust myself off, tell me its going to be ok and helped me hold my head up high. Without these women in my life, I would have taken failure to heart and lost faith in myself and my potential. We need intergenerational friendships to glean from their wisdom and see our lives from a different point of that has been there and done that, and come out on the other side triumphantly.
If this year has taught me anything is that we are wired for connection. May we continue to nurture our friendships and be good friends to others. Who did you think about when you read this post? Reach out, be available, and know it’s also never too late to make a new friend.