As a social worker you’re in it because you want to help people. You want to make a difference. And every social worker whether at a school, hospital, shelter, or family resource center exists within a system. Systems are build as a means of allocating resources to meet a need or solve a social problem. Therefore while the social worker is given resources to help people; those resources are finite. The system then is set up to say x,y,z and resources are for a,b,c clients. If a client comes to you with g, k and s problem guess what that client is SOL.
If a social worker is worth their salt, they will have an ace up their sleeve and be able to redirect the client to another agency and system that can help them. Yet, something happens in your soul when you have to tell a client. “I’m so sorry but we can’t help you, you have to go to somewhere else”. You look them in the eye and the disappointment, frustration, desperation is palpable. Over the years,
veteran social workers can become dissentized, or construct a narrative like “that’s the way things are” or worse shift the blame to the client for an arbitrary reason we can’t help them. Lately I’m realizing the cognitive dissonance of going against your primary instinct to help over and over. I’m learning to sit with those limitations of myself and the systems. Because if we can’t be in touch with our own feelings how can we hold onto to empathy? How do we hold onto to our humanity? Yes, people need food, shelter, therapy, legal services etc but they also need us to be human. I remember being in a rough spot financially and applying for food stamps the worker never looked me not once. He kept his eyes between the computer and his paperwork. I remember feeling like nothing. The old saying is true; people will forget what you say and what you do; but they will never forget how you made them feel. Let’s reconnect with ourselves, our humanity and our higher purpose.
By: Elisabet Medina
As humans we have four reactions to danger; we fight, we flee, we freeze, or we cling. When it comes to families that have migrated to the U.S. seeking a better a life; fighting would have resulted in a loss of life. How do you fight against transnational gangs? Do you protest your government when it means that you might be kidnapped and never heard from again?
At times, fleeing is the only option. Running for your life is more than a saying it is reality. For generations, parents have fled their home countries leaving behind children, parents, siblings, spouses to find relief and send for their loved ones one day.
Today, parents may also be suddenly deported leaving behind children in the U.S. who now have to bear the financial and psychological weight. Boys in particular feel the pressure to be the "man of the house" in the aftermath of a father's deportation. The separation; the feelings of abandonment, the missed birthdays, the days that bleed into years and wondering when you will see each other again? And if reunited; how to be a family again? Separation even in the best of circumstances when children are left with grandparents or other relatives still leaves its mark.
Only desperation would cause people to flee to a country that currently despises them. Now we are in a time, when children are forcibly removed from their parents who only want to protect their children and not leave them behind in unbearable circumstances.
Children in times of extreme stress have the same four options to react; fight, flight, freeze or cling. Except the children in immigration detention can neither, fight nor flee nor can they cling to the people who are supposed to help them feel safe; their parents.
This practice of separation is being justified by Department of Homeland Security officials because those attempting to cross the border have "broken the law" and "will be prosecuted". However, the only crime that warrants removal of a child from a parent is abuse be it- physical abuse, sexual abuse, or severe neglect. Attempting to cross a border should not be grounds for removing a child from their parents, and in doing this we cause immeasurable harm to children and families.
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